basics of self respect in divorce, etc

So How Do You Show Respect For Yourself?

You show respect for yourself when:
• You keep your dignity and composure and don’t beg, plead, or cry hysterically if your partner expresses the desire to leave the marriage.

• You have the confidence and belief that you can make it on your own,even though you don’t want to lose your marriage.

• You truly know that if your spouse leaves, it will be her loss, that you have a lot to offer as a partner.

• You make a commitment that you will create a satisfying life for yourself whether you are married or not.

• You set boundaries about what behavior from your spouse is unacceptable.

• You take action to protect yourself and your children from a spouse’s harmful behavior.

• You can actually do what you say you’re going to do without caving in or letting your spouse sweet talk you into giving in.

• You value your needs and take good care of yourself physically,emotionally, and spiritually.

• You talk gently to yourself and refuse to “beat yourself up” verbally.

• You are willing to take responsibility for your part in the marriage relationship.

• You are open to learning and growing from your life experiences.

• You stay positive even when going through a challenging time.

• You truly understand that being in love doesn’t mean that you accept disrespect, neglect, abuse, or indifference from your partner.

• You are always aware that in any situation, you have choices and options.

• You refuse to take on the role of victim.

• You know where the door is and can remove yourself from a situation that’s not good for you.